Tuesday, December 8, 2009


Loss,grief and Hope three words that have been in my Spirit over the past few weeks.

Loss is something we all feel at some point in our lives. We lose something that is precious to us,
and we are left with a feeling of sadness. Friends,Family even a precious earthly treasures we all hold each one dear.

Loss of any kind can be hard to bear

Grief is the feeling that a part of you has gone missing. Like limb has been ripped off from your body. You don't know what to say or do. Grief comes in different forms for everyone.

Stages of grief comes in different time frames for everyone but we all have to go Thur the same feelings.

SHOCK & DENIAL-Shock provides emotional protection from being overwhelmed all at once. Denial helps us deny the reality of the loss at some level, in order to avoid the pain.

PAIN & GUILT-As the shock wears off, it is replaced with the suffering of unbelievable pain. feelings or remorse over things you did or didn't do with your loved one will leave some full of overwhelming guilt.

ANGER :Frustration that you can not change what has happen gives way to anger

DEPRESSION: you finally realize the true magnitude of your loss, and it depresses you.
Just when your friends may think you should be getting on with your life, a long period of sad reflection will likely overtake you.

Breathing Again: As you begin to adjust to life without the one you loss.Your "depression" begins to lift slightly. You can breath again

REBUILDING-As you become more functional, your mind starts working again, and you will find yourself seeking real solutions to problems posed by life without your loved one.

ACCEPTANCE & HOPE:Acceptance does not necessarily mean instant happiness. But you will find a way forward. but Hope is one thing I long to see in times of grief. Sadly this is one stage not everyone can go Thur the same way.

I am sadden by how people suffer loss with no hope in the end. There is a certain loneliness that can never be filled. Ultimately the condition of Life and Death is one that can be only be filled with the Spirit of God. A Friend of mine often uses this pharse "We all have a God size hole in our hearts."Grief and loss cause us to feel that hole more then other times in life. Those of us who have our hearts full of his spirit have hope. Those who do not sadly are left without hope.

Beans view today Glad for my hope sad for those who don't share in the same

Psalm 31:24 (New Century Version)
24 All you who put your hope in the Lord be strong and brave.


Barbara said...

Thank God that I am one of the people with hope. Dont think that I would have made it without Him.

BEAN said...

me either....